Hello and welcome to the new and exciting world of BDSM, a place where one can explore their fantasies, and develop fulling and lifelong relationships in an warm and welcoming environment. Oh, and a whole lot of kinky sex… well, …

Do’s, Don’ts and Opinions from a Single Male Dominant Read more »

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There is a huge gulf between bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism, and masochism, collectively known as BDSM, and intimate partner abuse. Although it seems as if BDSM and abuse would go hand in hand, that’s certainly not the case. Intimate …

Fifty Shades of Pink: The Differences Between BDSM and Abuse Read more »

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The mandate that BDSM should be “Safe Sane and Consensual” (SSC) is SM’s most famous rubric, and is known and accepted in virtually every camp and corner of the SM community. At its best, SSC encourages us to monitoring safety, …

“Safe Sane And Consensual” A Proposed Definition Read more »

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BDSM Clubs are not necessarily sex clubs- in fact, the vast majority of the scenes I have been involved in and watched do not include sex.  Don’t expect sex or that participants at BDSM events are going to be comfortable …

BDSM Does Not Equal Sex- Why it is Safe to Say “NO” Read more »

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OK- So maybe you were like me growing up, and your bad Barbies got put into GI Joe prison camp, and the ones that couldn’t be rehabbed successfully were sent to the My Little Pony’s Paddock of Doom- but even …

Welcome To BDSM Read more »

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I want people I play with to be really interested in doing something with me. I don’t just want the moaning and groaning response of “well, i guess that may be acceptable if it is what you think I’ll want”. …

Enthusiastic Consent and Negotiation Read more »

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When you first go to a BDSM club or play party, there are some basic things you should know.  Here’s a basic primer: Street Legal: show up to the door wearing clothing that you would be comfortable in when walking …

I found a BDSM club and I’m going- What should I expect? Read more »

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What is in a name? It is a very cliche question, however when it comes to the BDSM scene it is a relevant one. Most people, when they first get involved in the BDSM community, choose how they want to …

The Many Names Of A Kinkster Read more »

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