There is a huge gulf between bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism, and masochism, collectively known as BDSM, and intimate partner abuse. Although it seems as if BDSM and abuse would go hand in hand, that’s certainly not the case. Intimate …

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The mandate that BDSM should be “Safe Sane and Consensual” (SSC) is SM’s most famous rubric, and is known and accepted in virtually every camp and corner of the SM community. At its best, SSC encourages us to monitoring safety, …

“Safe Sane And Consensual” A Proposed Definition Read more »

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BDSM Clubs are not necessarily sex clubs- in fact, the vast majority of the scenes I have been involved in and watched do not include sex.  Don’t expect sex or that participants at BDSM events are going to be comfortable …

BDSM Does Not Equal Sex- Why it is Safe to Say “NO” Read more »

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OK- So maybe you were like me growing up, and your bad Barbies got put into GI Joe prison camp, and the ones that couldn’t be rehabbed successfully were sent to the My Little Pony’s Paddock of Doom- but even …

Welcome To BDSM Read more »

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How is getting beaten not abusive? Technically, according to your state’s laws, it may fall under battery or domestic violence, however, start by looking at consent.  I enjoy getting beaten- punched, kicked, stepped on, and generally hurt.  I enjoy physical …

I’m not Abused: I’m beaten regularly and happily Read more »

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Sadism and Masochism- I can talk about De Sade and Masoch, but I won’t.  You can do your own research if so inclined to learn about those gentlemen.  I’d rather start right at the topic and skip the prologue. S&M …

What the Heck is S&M and Why Do It? Read more »

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I want people I play with to be really interested in doing something with me. I don’t just want the moaning and groaning response of “well, i guess that may be acceptable if it is what you think I’ll want”. …

Enthusiastic Consent and Negotiation Read more »

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Ever since 1999, when TNG was founded, it has found itself under debate. There have always been, and will always be, people who feel less than positive about its existence. Like many topics facing the SM community, this is one …

What is TNG Read more »

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