Communication

Communication is the core of almost every relationship. Regardless if it is a friendship, a play partner or your lifelong partner, communication is the core of how we interact. It will help get to know each other, work through problems, get others to know you, and just interact with those around you. Anytime you hear a therapist on TV will give couples the advice that they need to communicate more. The reality is most people take that as they need to talk more. The reality is we all could use to learn to communicate, to discuss to listen better. We have many different perspectives and experiences in the scene with this. Some are just extensions of traditional ways that normal couples communicate, while others are new and interesting levels and areas that need to be discussed that most people never think about. It is the advice I give to just about anyone coming into the scene regardless of how they define themselves: “Learn to Communicate With Those You Are Involved With’. It seems simple, it really really isn’t. It means checking egos, it means learning to listen, it means finding ways to get past your own fears and assumptions of hurting someone by telling the truth. It is a hard thing, it is something I still struggle with, as does most people, I just admit it more openly.

• Safewords- What they are and Why they work - We all have limits, we all have good days, we all have bad days.  Basic communication is a valuable skill and we all need to use it. Sometimes, though, we need to have a word that goes beyond basic communication …

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• Safewording 101 - When you first started exploring BDSM, someone probably told you you need a safeword–a word you can use to stop your play partner from doing something you don’t want to do. During a BDSM scene, the bottom consents for the …

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• Coming Out Kinky to a Partner - Accepting one’s self is one of the hardest things we will ever do as kinksters. Many of us spent years anguishing over our “different desires” and what they mean. But now that we are embracing who we are or what …

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• 50 Shades Of Curious – Communication - This is an excerpt from the book: “50 Shades of Curious: BDSM for Beginners” by Bo Blaze COMMUNICATION Communication is one of my very favorite subjects. I’ve taught a class called Communication, Communication, Communication aka Communication in the Scene for many …

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