Positive body image and self-love is difficult enough in clothing. Spanx are the foundation and cornerstone of my personal image when I go into the office, along with high heels, well-manicured nails, and lipstick.  I can be brutal about my …

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BDSM Clubs are not necessarily sex clubs- in fact, the vast majority of the scenes I have been involved in and watched do not include sex.  Don’t expect sex or that participants at BDSM events are going to be comfortable …

BDSM Does Not Equal Sex- Why it is Safe to Say “NO” Read more »

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OK- So maybe you were like me growing up, and your bad Barbies got put into GI Joe prison camp, and the ones that couldn’t be rehabbed successfully were sent to the My Little Pony’s Paddock of Doom- but even …

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How is getting beaten not abusive? Technically, according to your state’s laws, it may fall under battery or domestic violence, however, start by looking at consent.  I enjoy getting beaten- punched, kicked, stepped on, and generally hurt.  I enjoy physical …

I’m not Abused: I’m beaten regularly and happily Read more »

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Sadism and Masochism- I can talk about De Sade and Masoch, but I won’t.  You can do your own research if so inclined to learn about those gentlemen.  I’d rather start right at the topic and skip the prologue. S&M …

What the Heck is S&M and Why Do It? Read more »

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I want people I play with to be really interested in doing something with me. I don’t just want the moaning and groaning response of “well, i guess that may be acceptable if it is what you think I’ll want”. …

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The Sadist That Cut the Floor Length Hair: The Abridged Version by WhiteTigerPrime So, here’s the story. I was told that it is true. I don’t know if it actually is or not. Who knows? But the thing is, whether …

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We all have limits, we all have good days, we all have bad days.  Basic communication is a valuable skill and we all need to use it. Sometimes, though, we need to have a word that goes beyond basic communication …

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So, you found a munch through Fetlife and you are planning to go- remember, it is just a meal. Dress your level of normal. There can easily be a traditional family of five over in the booth on the other …

Preparing for my first Munch- and forming a reasonable expectation Read more »

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This is a very common concern for people coming in to the community. If you do see someone at an event you know you have a few options. You say hi or you can just pretend not to know each …

What happens if I meet someone I know at a munch or party? Read more »

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