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Author: Lucy Marshall

Hi,  I'm Lucy! I tend to love the essay- a lot. I also love story telling and just sharing my experiences as I see them- usually with a bit of snark and humor in the mix.  I've been active in the VA, MD, DC BDSM scene for about 15 years, as a bottom, a top, a switch, a submissive and a lot of weird stuff in between, I am also a masochist as well as a sadist.  I am a graysexual and can relate to the ACE perspective as well. You can find me on Fetlife as LucyMarshall, feel free to drop me a line!    

Body Beautiful

By Lucy Marshall Posted on February 23, 2015 Posted in Personal Experiences Tagged with Body Image, Plus

Positive body image and self-love is difficult enough in clothing. Spanx are the foundation and cornerstone of my personal image when I go into the office, along with high heels, well-manicured nails, and lipstick.  I can be brutal about my …

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BDSM Does Not Equal Sex- Why it is Safe to Say “NO”

By Lucy Marshall Posted on February 21, 2015 Posted in BDSM Tagged with bdsm, Limits, Sex

BDSM Clubs are not necessarily sex clubs- in fact, the vast majority of the scenes I have been involved in and watched do not include sex.  Don’t expect sex or that participants at BDSM events are going to be comfortable …

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Welcome To BDSM

By Lucy Marshall Posted on February 21, 2015 Posted in BDSM Tagged with bdsm, Bondage, Dominance, Submission, Welcome

OK- So maybe you were like me growing up, and your bad Barbies got put into GI Joe prison camp, and the ones that couldn’t be rehabbed successfully were sent to the My Little Pony’s Paddock of Doom- but even …

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I’m not Abused: I’m beaten regularly and happily

By Lucy Marshall Posted on February 21, 2015 Posted in BDSM Tagged with Abuse, Beaten, Consent, S&M

How is getting beaten not abusive? Technically, according to your state’s laws, it may fall under battery or domestic violence, however, start by looking at consent.  I enjoy getting beaten- punched, kicked, stepped on, and generally hurt.  I enjoy physical …

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What the Heck is S&M and Why Do It?

By Lucy Marshall Posted on February 21, 2015 Posted in BDSM Tagged with S&M

Sadism and Masochism- I can talk about De Sade and Masoch, but I won’t.  You can do your own research if so inclined to learn about those gentlemen.  I’d rather start right at the topic and skip the prologue. S&M …

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Enthusiastic Consent and Negotiation

By Lucy Marshall Posted on February 21, 2015 Posted in BDSM Tagged with bdsm, Consent, negotiation

I want people I play with to be really interested in doing something with me. I don’t just want the moaning and groaning response of “well, i guess that may be acceptable if it is what you think I’ll want”. …

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The Sadist That Cut the Floor Length Hair: The Abridged Version – An Allegory on Consent

By Lucy Marshall Posted on February 21, 2015 Posted in Uncategorized

The Sadist That Cut the Floor Length Hair: The Abridged Version by WhiteTigerPrime So, here’s the story. I was told that it is true. I don’t know if it actually is or not. Who knows? But the thing is, whether …

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Safewords- What they are and Why they work

By Lucy Marshall Posted on February 21, 2015 Posted in Communication

We all have limits, we all have good days, we all have bad days.  Basic communication is a valuable skill and we all need to use it. Sometimes, though, we need to have a word that goes beyond basic communication …

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Preparing for my first Munch- and forming a reasonable expectation

By Lucy Marshall Posted on February 18, 2015 Posted in FAQ Tagged with Intro, Munch

So, you found a munch through Fetlife and you are planning to go- remember, it is just a meal. Dress your level of normal. There can easily be a traditional family of five over in the booth on the other …

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What happens if I meet someone I know at a munch or party?

By Lucy Marshall Posted on February 18, 2015 Posted in FAQ Tagged with Event, Party

This is a very common concern for people coming in to the community. If you do see someone at an event you know you have a few options. You say hi or you can just pretend not to know each …

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