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Author: Chris M

Chris M is an artist, writer, single father, dominant and SM educator, who has been active in the Washington DC scene for over two decades.  Four times elected to the Black Rose Board of Directors he led the team that developed the Black Rose Dungeon Monitor Program, which in turn has served as the foundation for DM programs from coast to coast.  He has presented SM workshops and seminars across the country at SM conferences, Wiccan festivals, and university campuses (including both Tulane University in New Orleans and Pace University, NYC).  Prior to his departure from Black Rose in 2006 he had taught classes at all of the Black Rose Annual festivals Working on his own or with others he developed the first Black Rose classes on Aftercare, SM Spirituality, Tickletorture, Anal Play, and SM community history. As a writer, he was a frequent contributor to the Petal and Thorn, with articles about play technique and leather culture particularly the spiritual experience encountered within SM.  Many of his articles can be found at https://fetlife.com/users/237084. As an artist his work has been exhibited in a one man show at the late, great Playhouse Studios of Baltimore MD.  His eight foot wall mural hung at the Crucible from 2003 until it left its half street location, and his pen and ink illustrations were featured both in Joseph Bean’s book “Flogging.”and in “Erotic Tickling” by Michael Moran.

“Safe Sane And Consensual” A Proposed Definition

By Chris M Posted on February 21, 2015 Posted in BDSM Tagged with bdsm, Safety, SSC

The mandate that BDSM should be “Safe Sane and Consensual” (SSC) is SM’s most famous rubric, and is known and accepted in virtually every camp and corner of the SM community. At its best, SSC encourages us to monitoring safety, …

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